Damn, what an ass am I?
I always made sure I warmed up softly with Fresco, him being a RBI/LBI and all.
So I always took the time to match his energy and just hang with him, not asking much the first minutes and sometimes just spending undemanding time as the start of a session.
What I didn’t even think about, was the end of a session.
Yes, I always made sure to end on a positive note and I did try not to go over the limit, but today I realized that I always rushed out when our play session was over.
And that is entirely my fault, I always play or ride until the last minute, and then I usually need to go pick up the kids, or go to an appointment or be somewhere else anyways.
Today however, I really listened to Fresco and at a certain point when he offered me impulsion and lightness at liberty, although I knew we could do more but it would be with a “I’m starting to get sick of you” expression, I stopped, sat down on a barrel and he followed me and stood next to me. He then put his head on my lap and we sat there for about 15 minutes. He yawned, his head was completely down and at a certain moment he started to paw in the sand and checking the ground out to roll right next to me!
Do you remember that feeling you got when you were a teenager and the person you were in love with, looked you right in the eyes? Well I’m not “in love” with my horse but that’s what I felt, those butterflies. They came up and at the same time I felt a great tenderness for my horse. I kept thinking, wow this would be the first time he did this and I had been longing for this moment for what feels like forever.
He pawed several times, but apparently the ground wasn’t soft or sandy enough for him so he did a few steps to a spot where the there was sand and there he rolled.
This was a huge eye opener for me. Stopping 15 minutes earlier and getting this, is worth so much more to me than any fancy move he could do!
My mind drifted off thinking about what I had just learned. And then it dawned to me. It really is simple.
Imagine making love to your partner, the best you can imagine, the kind where you feel extremely connected and everything feels natural and good and you’re lying next to each other afterwards. Then all of a sudden after not even 1 minute, he would get up, get dressed and rush out of the bedroom door without you knowing where he is going or why?
I don’t know about you of course but I can tell you that I would feel hurt and left alone, not to mention that the good feeling I just had, would have completely disappeared.
You sure wouldn’t call what we have a good relationship now would you?
Well this might be an anthropomorphic comparison, but I’m quite sure that a little part of it is true, even for a horse, at least mine showed me today.
I still can’t believe I’m only realizing this now, I’m glad I did find out though and I am going to put a lot of effort into this area of our relationship.
This might not be related to the fast track but I just needed to write this down.