This last week I have been reading about 5 books at the same time, yes I know it’s pretty bizarre and some might consider this crazy and chaotic but hey that’s me!
My book reading strategy is simple, I know myself and I know I easily lose interest in certain things and subjects after a while, so instead of focusing on 1 book, I read several at the same time so that if I get bored with a paragraph, I pick another book and start reading that one. I do this because  I know that I will read that boring paragraph better and more attentively if I read it again tomorrow with a fresh mind.
This strategy ensures that I actually finish all 5 books and also that my learning accelerates, because these books are not novels or entertainment, those 5 books are all personal development books.

In one book I found out that in order to be successful in life you need to start by getting to know yourself. The best way to get to know yourself is to list your strengths and your weaknesses.
This is a strategy that I have heard over and over again in my professional life and I’ve read in many books but I don’t believe I have done it these last few years so I thought, this is the perfect time to do it!

Strengths Weaknesses
Analytical mind Planning (or a lack thereof)
Outgoing Easily procrastinates
Comfortable in new situations Fear of failure
Passionate Fear of being criticized 
Ambitious Tend to explode or run away when being pressured
Strong in mind and body Not sure how to deal with others emotions
Passionate teacher  

So this is what I have come up with, I’m sure there are more, but these sounded like the key ones to look at.
My first weakness is one I would like to elaborate on as I am going through that one right now and I want to show everyone that I’m a normal person and this happens to me too.

The Fast Track was amazing for me especially on the goal and planning part. The plan for the day was made for us and it was easy to just follow the plan and if necessary adapt to be able to fit the plan.
Now that I’m home however, the planning is up to me and that is one of those weaknesses. I have made plans before, but never seemed to be able to follow them fully. There is always a point at which I lose track of the planning and start doing something else. This is however only in my personal life, not in professional life, amazingly enough I am very good at planning and keeping the planning when I’m getting paid for it!  (aha motivation, might I be a LBI when it comes to planning?)
Since I got back from the UK I have not made a plan yet and as a result Fresco has been having a nice break these last 2 days and he’s loving it, while I’m feeling guilty about not progressing in my horsemanship now that I’m home!
Before I went on the Fast Track I also kind of committed to putting a plan together for Missy as well, because I have not done much with her for the last 5 months, but that is also something I did not get around to do yet. Aiaiaiai I need to kick myself!

The weekly goals at the Fast Track were very helpful, but somehow I did not manage 1 full week to reach all my goals for that week.
This is something I also go through at home and I wanted to analyze how this happens and why, so that I can improve that weakness.
I remember that 1 goal that I did reach and how good it felt to reach it, so how come that good feeling is not motivating me to reach another goal? I have several suspicions, the first one is that I have too many goals (that’s the easy one) or the goals are too difficult to be realistic, secondly I have this fear of failure that actually blocks me from getting to my goal.
I believe the last one is spot on and although I know it, I still have difficulties getting myself to move.
Procrastination is the result of this fear, for those of you that have read Stephanie Burns’  book, you know exactly what I mean. Fear has taken over my mind and is keeping me from reaching exactly that what I want to reach so badly.
So here we have the 3rd weakness at play, wow how amazing!
So that means that those 3 weaknesses are connected which hopefully means that if I improve one, the others will automatically improve as well? Hey this blog is useful for mirroring myself!

Ok so I believe I have done enough self-reflecting for the day, now it’s time to move my a** and start doing something!

So again, thank you for reading and I’ll let you know how the plan goes, if at least I don’t forget about the plan? 🙂


Wendy Joris
Wendy Joris

Al meer dan 30j gepassionneerd door paarden en mensen richtte Wendy Joris Mirror Horses VZW op in 2008 met als doel om zoveel mogelijk mensen en paarden hun leven te verbeteren zodat zij dan weer anderen hun leven positief kunnen beïnvloeden. Want zij gelooft in het "ripple" effect en dat iedereen zijn bijdrage levert in het verbeteren van de paardenwereld!

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    2 replies to "Define your strengths and weaknesses"

    • mirrorhorses

      Wow Becca, amazing! You are rocking!
      Well that is indeed a good idea and thank you for sharing. I wonder if it would work if I put my goals on my blog? Would you guys be prepared to comment and support me in those goals? That would be awesome. You need to be prepared to kick my butt as well if I don’t do anything about them 😉
      I know what you mean when you say that it’s ok to not achieve goals within a certain time, but in my case I really did not work towards them as much as I should have so that is why I didn’t reach them really. And I know it!
      How I do it, well here at home, I think about my goals, even write them down, but can’t seem to get myself out of the house to actually go play with my horses. This especially happens the day after I had a very good day with Fresco. I suspect because I’m afraid that this day will not be as good as the one before and then I’ll feel bad. I know it’s silly because I never really feel bad anymore, I have learned to change my attitude. But sometimes I still feel frustrated (more with myself than with him really) and those moments feel very awkward and bad so I try to avoid them.
      Obviously this is all unconsciously, not something I tell myself. I actually try to picture a good outcome and I try to talk myself into getting in action and sometimes I manage to convince myself but not always.
      At the FT it was easy, the motivation was really high, I was out of my normal habits so easy to create new ones, the goals were displayed for everyone to see, we worked at them as a team, everyone was supportive, and in case something went wrong, I could ask an instructor so that was my safety net.
      Now I feel a bit lonely again and it’s so easy to just relax and do other things that I don’t really need to do… The motivation (AKA positive stress) of being watched is not there anymore and apparently that one is a very important key for me. SUPPORT! 🙂

    • Becca

      Hey Wendy

      I wanted to say thanks for your blogs – they’re great! I think a few of us may have similar weaknesses at least….
      I was interested in hearing how you tend to put things off and why. Laura was chatting to us at Stoneleigh and said it really helps to make yourself accountable to someone. Hence why Elly and I have started weekly get togethers and goal setting – same as when on the fastrack really. As the horse sets the timeline i think sometimes it does not matter when you reach your goal, as long as you can see why you are working on whatever ingredients it is that you need. For example, my goal for week 2 on the FT was flying lead changes freestyle. I did not acheive that goal, however, my walk to canter transitions, bow ties and f8s with transitions are getting really good!! So is our confidence going over little jumps. I see that all this is working towards my goal. Last night i put a pole on the floor, got some speed up at the canter, changed direction over the pole – and voila!!!! She changed in front and behind :-)))))))))))) .
      Please keep up the blogging its great

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